Hey guys, I sincerely apologize for my absence on the blog. I have been really busy with my personal business for the last two weeks and was unable to focus to write anything new. Thank you so much to all those who messaged asking why they aren’t seeing any posts…I love that you all are enjoying my reads. 🙂 here’s a new one for you guys <3…
Growing up I never, ever saw myself as a wife. I couldn’t see myself living with a man, cleaning up after one, taking care of one when he’s sick, holding one in my arms if he’s hurting or even just having deep decision-making conversations.
Now, in the situation, I think I’m the happiest woman alive! I have no problems cleaning up after him (for this part he might disagree because he calls himself the ‘Cinderella’ of the home) but we all know better right 😏, I have no problem cooking for him, caring for him or washing for him. To bring everything in a nutshell, I have no problem being his wife!
I love this job! I do it with passion because of the love and the attention (sometimes lol) I get from him. I feel honoured to be his wife. He’s worked extremely hard to put a roof over my head and he’s always willing to go the extra mile for my comfort. I love my husband. Five months of living together and I feel like I could do this for five years and another five years and so on.
Five things I’ve learnt over the past five months of living with him:
1. Exercise patience! Before we got married his mom warned me that the minute he gets home from work he goes straight to sleep…so said so done. I must say I had a hard time dealing with that at the beginning. I would always quarell about it but now I’ve learned to lower my voice and work around it and get what I want done before he knocks out. Be patient with your man. They’re like babies.
2. Listening to him. Most men are not ‘talkers’. If you get a non-talker to talk girrrrrlll you better sit and listen! Stop what you’re doing and pay full attention. This brings you closer to him because they appreciate the fact that when they’re ready to speak you’re there to listen just like when we’re ready to speak theyre there to listen 🙂 I have a non-talker. Yall should see how quick I drop my phone whenever he wants to talk about something. Haha.
3. Don’t try to settle everything that goes wrong all at once! Nothing gets to me more than hearing someone say “work out your problems right away” umm…nope. I hate to talk when I’m upset and so does Hayden. I need time to think and go over what I have to say! If you’re like me then take your time. He’s not going anywhere and neither are you. Relax, take a deep breath, say a prayer, eat some comfort food (Häagen-Dazs) and then approach. You also have to know what works best for your partner and yourself.
4. Annoy him haha. Stick your tongue in his ear, bite his nose, push him when he’s walking, smack his butt, kiss him up while he’s sleeping. They say it’s annoying but they love it! 😉
5. Cooking & Cleaning. It’s best to work out who does what so there’s no unnecessary conflict. In our case, I’ll cook and he’ll wash the dishes…some days he’ll wash the clothes and some days I will, etc. However, if he doesn’t do what he’s supposed to (cause we know men :/ ) be ready to and gently speak to him about why he didn’t do his part.
Overall it’s a great feeling. Being able to fall asleep next to that one person who has your heart, and wake up next to that same person who loves you for YOU. Cherish that person, don’t ever take them for granted…<3
I’m open to advice about what works best for you and yours. Feel free to share 🙂
Until next time,